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Free Counselling, Wellness & Healing Sessions

for Wildfire Evacuees

* To book your free wellness session or mini-retreat, please contact the person

you are interested in working with directly.

Counselling & Trauma Therapy

Cea Winter, registered clinical counsellor – offering free counselling, trauma therapy or Hot River Stone MindHeart Healing arts sessions for adults, children (sandtray, art & play therapy) & teens and a grounding mindfulness expressive arts 1-day retreat.

For Women & Moms: offering a no cost Mindfulness Expressive Arts rejuvenation mini-retreat for women & moms called “SEED TO TREE” at Shimmering Tree Studio on Paul Lake, Sunday July 23rd , (more info and photos of retreat at Shimmering Tree Studio Facebook page).

For Volunteers: offering a ‘by donation’ Mindfulness Expressive Arts retreat at Shimmering Tree Studio in appreciation of support volunteers, Sunday, August 13 called “Nurturing the Goddess.”

To book a spot at one of the retreats or a session at either the Kamloops office or Paul Lake studio, please call 250-573-4225 or cea@shimmeringtreecounselling.ca Website: www.shimmeringtreecounselling.ca

Nina Fields– Intuitive & certified Counsellor- offering 2 Counselling sessions. Please contact Nina at 604,727-6817, khema@theheartfulhealer.com, website:theheartfulhealer.com to book a session.

Angela Davis– certified Hakomi Therapist – offering 2 Hakomi therapy sessions. Please contact at compassionatepath@gmail.com, (250) 574-627, compassionatepath@gmail.com to book a session.

Accupuncture

Shawna Wafler, R.Ac. – 45 min accupunture sessions for stress and lung support. Two locations downtown: Wild Roots clinic & Sacred Treasures Health. Please call 250-299-5469 to book a session. Website: www.sacredtreasureshealth.ca and www.wildrootsclinic.ca

Craniosacral Style Massage

Ronda Maxwell45 minute relaxation craniosacral style sessions. Please call 250-377-5897 to book a session.

Yoga

Yoga Loft – offering free yoga passes and some resources from the Yoga Loft website. For evacuees & volunteers- bring valid ID to the studio for your free yoga session. See details at: chttp://youryogaloft.com/wildfire-relief-support/

Reiki

Kevin Knight- Massage Therapist, Reflexologist – Reiki Master – 2 Stressbuster sessions. Please call 250-320-4273 to book a session.

Teslynn Pauliuk Laycraft, Level II Reiki practitioner – offering Reiki sessions. Please message Teslynn through Facebook to book a session.

Coaching

Janet Whitehead– ‎Professional Change Coach, Creative & Strategic Consulting- offering life coaching with a creative twist sessions. Please message janet @novelminds.ca to book a session.

AromaTouch Technique

Tanya Epp– AromaTouch Technique practitioner (certified) – offering unlimited sessions-  please message Tanya through Facebook to book a session.

To see an updated list of donated wellness services, please go to FB page -Shimmering Tree Studio. More donations may be coming in.

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ARTICLE: How to Calm, Ground & Help Trauma-proof Yourself & Your Children During Difficult Times

How we handle stressful or overwhelming situations like this natural disaster evacuation, initially, can prevent serious issues down the road for adults and children. As a trauma therapist, I would like to share some of what I know on the effects of traumatic situations and how trauma effects like PTSD can be mitigated or prevented by paying attention to how we respond and take care of ourselves and our children right now.

Knowing what I do about the short and long term effects of overwhelm during natural disasters, I want to help prevent unnecessary suffering now and down the road. In Kamloops there are now many individuals and families who have been evacuated from their homes due to out of control wildfires. They are playing a very stressful waiting game where many people are experiencing a sense of helplessness to protect their homes and worry for their family, friends and animals.

Essentially, how we respond to new and threatening situations, especially if we are parents or caregivers, affects everything: our nervous system, our brain and body chemistry, how we are able to care for our children, and our mental and physical health outcomes in later life. There is significant research showing the negative effects of disasters (natural or otherwise) on children in the short and long term. For example, Self Regulation Therapy (trauma recovery therapy) psychologists, Drs. Lynn Zettl and Edward Josephs, have cited, in their trainings, many children who’s mothers were pregnant with them at the time of the Kelowna fires, are showing up in their office with significant trauma effects as young and school age children.

Our children pick up on our mental/emotional state even after birth so it is important that we find ways to manage our stress, not only for our own health and well being, but for our children’s. It is much easier to mitigate or prevent trauma effects in our children by monitoring how we ourselves as parents deal with stressful situations than to treat children later in life.

Babies and children use their caregivers’ nervous system as a template that regulates their own nervous system. If their caregiver is anxious, stressed and ungrounded, not only will that be transmitted to the child, but the caregiver is far less able to attune to and connect with his or her child in a way that the child feels seen, safe and have needs met. In this way, children’s needs for safety and attention can be undermined. Caregivers who are stressed out, anxious and in-their-head cannot be fully present or attune to what their children are experiencing, or be able to communicate convincing assurance to their children because their body language will be communicating something else.

The single most important way caregivers can help their children is to first calm and ground themselves. Ways that I and my clients have used successfully are:

1) breathe – slow deep belly breaths, count the seconds of your inhale (ex. 1-2-3-4), pause for a second or two (ex. 1-2), exhale more slowly (ex. 1-2-3-4-5-6), pause (ex. 1-2)… inhale again and continue until you begin to feel calmer and more in your body

2) ground – feel your feet on the ground, wiggle your toes. You may want to try imagining yourself as a strong, flexible tree that holds it’s ground but flexes in the wind. Imagine roots growing down from your feet anchoring you into the ground, feel the strength of your core, and imagine your branches and leaves growing up towards the sun- feel the warmth of the sun on your skin.

Note: there are many ways to center yourself and to ground. You may want to try a number of these until you find something that works for you:

– yoga (focus is on the whole body- not just the head)

– mindfulness meditation (keep sustained focus on one thing (ex. breath, leaf…) – research has found it to lower stress and create overall mind, body & emotional benefits including dampening the amygdala (alarm system of the body) to allow you to relax and feel a sense of ease and well being. It also grows your brain and prevents DNA degradation or “fraying.”)

– guided body scan (minute focus on the different parts of the body- getting you out of the hamster wheel of the worry mind)

– yoga nidra- guided intention setting & body scan

– play music, sing, draw or scribble, be playful with your kids or a friend

– smell a scent that calms you (ex. a flower, grass, essential oils)

– walk in nature; walk barefoot in grass or sand

– distract self short term (ex. play a game, have a conversation, watch a comedy or learn more about something that truly interests you (learning uses parts of the brain associated with neurogenesis which helps improves mood), help someone else…)

Fortunately, most of these can be accessed online if you cannot get to a yoga studio or a trauma therapist. Try a few out to find what works for you. You may google for specific outcomes such as “yoga nidra for deep sleep,” or “guided visualization for calm & peace.”

3) allow – give permission to allow your body to express itself.  If you feel the urge to cry, run, tremble, etc, allow your body to carry this out: this is natural and your body’s way of releasing activation. (In some cases, you may want to do this alone or out of children’s presence if it may be alarming for them- ex. yelling in a closed car).

4) allow your children to express their emotions freely and support them by letting them know what they are feeling is natural and that it is good to express. Important: Do not shut them down or try to talk them out of feeling what they feel. After they have expressed what their body’s want to express, let them be quiet and have time and space to equilibrate, let them know you are there and love them, maybe rubbing their backs. They may be very tired. When their energy returns, invite them to rejoin you or the family and do something enjoyable. Recognize they may be lower energy for awhile and that is okay.

5) radical acceptance – we can waste a lot of energy fighting something we cannot change. Taking a moment to say something like, “I may not like it, but I accept that I cannot stop the fire and I will be okay even if I need to build a new home. The most important thing is that I am/we are safe.” Notice what happens in your body.

6) give your brain a break and bring your attention to your whole self, being mindfully aware and curious about what is happening with your body sensations, mood, thoughts (without buying in to all of them, especially if they are negative and bring you down). This is about observing and tolerating, knowing that all states change and uncomfortable feelings and thoughts eventually pass. Sometimes sitting with them and letting them express (be) rather than stuffing them down can be the fastest way through.

7) monitor self talk – interrupt negative (especially repeating) thoughts and replace with more optimistic perspective or go back to centering and grounding practices above

Please note that it is best to get trained support with this practice if you feel too overwhelmed (if you notice a downward spiral in thought and mood that is too much). If you begin to experience this, change your focus, connect with someone you trust and consider getting professional support. In an emergency in Kamloops area: call 911 or 250-374-5111, go to the nearest emergency room or follow the emergency instructions, or call the local Interior Crisis Line: 310-6789 (do not add 250 before the number). Someone will be available to talk with you 24 hours a day here.

If you or your child continues to feel overwhelmed, scared, panicky or reactive it would be a good idea to go to a doctor to get a referral to a trauma therapist to deal with the root cause and wellness practitioner for added support (these can be booked directly but it is good to check your symptoms out with a medical professional). You may get a prescription to treat your symptoms if they are overwhelming, but it is important to treat the root of the problem as prescription drugs generally blunt the symptoms (and may have side effects you do not want) but do not repair the causal issue(s).

If you are continuing to experience trauma symptoms that interrupt your life after 3 months, you may have PTSD and treatment is important as it generally worsens with time, negatively affects relationships and begins to take it’s toll on the body, often with chronic pain or chronic fatigue syndromes, amongst others. Following the protocol above for supporting yourself and any dependent children during or after a stressful or threatening situation can help prevent or mitigate trauma effects.

The good news is that while we cannot control natural disasters like wildfires, we can take informed action to help ourselves and our children while we are experiencing high stress and to act to get help if issues show up now or later.

Recommended reading: Trauma Proofing Your Kids or Healing Trauma by Dr. Peter Levine or The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk

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